This question is often asked in a tired tone:
Why am I not getting better despite everything I do?
Despite reading.
Despite the sessions.
Despite the decisions.
Despite the moments of temporary calm.
The question seems logical,
But his answer is not a lack of effort.
Nor in a lack of awareness
Nor is it due to a lack of attempts.
In many cases,
The reason is both simpler and deeper:
You don't need new knowledge…
Because you are already full.
When nothing new enters
Imagine yourself as a vessel filled to the brim.
Anything extra:
Information
tool
advice
New decision
He will not enter.
It will fall out of the container.
Not because the information is incorrect,
Not because you are incapable of understanding,
But because the space is not available.
This is exactly what happens when we feel like we're doing everything.
Nothing changes.
The fullness we don't notice
Fullness is not always obvious.
may be:
Unexpressed feelings
Accumulated tension
Deferred grief
suppressed anger
Or a fear that was quickly overcome without being experienced.
Over time,
We become people:
We understand a lot
We analyze carefully
We are looking for the following answer
While the body says only one thing:
No more… I'm full.
Why do the attempts fail?
Because most attempts come at the wrong time.
The mind wants:
to improve
To advance
to change
But the body needs:
to empty
to calm down
To breathe
When we insist on insertion before discharge,
We feel frustrated,
We interpret this as a personal failure.
While in reality it is a mismatch in arrangement .
It's not a problem of awareness… it's a problem of capacity.
At this stage,
The problem is not that you don't know enough.
In fact, you know more than your nervous system can currently handle.
Therefore:
Reading has no effect
Superficial meetings change nothing
Decisions don't last long.
Because the container has not yet been emptied.
Unloading is not an escape from evolution.
Unloading does not mean going backwards.
Nor should we dwell on the past.
Nor reliving the pain.
Rather, it means:
abortion
Discharge
Making interior space available
So that any subsequent perception becomes accessible.
The discharge is what makes:
Information is being disseminated
The decision proves
And change continues
When do we know we need to empty our bladders?
When you say:
I know all this… but I don't feel any change.
I try… but I can't move
I understand… but my body is tired
This is not resistance.
No laziness,
No stubbornness.
This is a clear sign:
The current phase is not a construction phase.
Rather, it's a phase of emptying.
After the unloading… everything changes
When the vessel is empty:
The body calms down
Automatic responses decrease
The space becomes available
And here only:
Perception becomes effective
Coaching is a true building tool
The choices stem from clarity, not pressure.
Not because life has become easier,
Rather, it's because you are no longer filled with what prevents you from moving forward.
in the end…
If you feel that you are trying too hard without results,
Perhaps you don't need a new step.
But you need to stop for a moment.
And you ask a different question:
Do I need to add…
Or should I empty it first?
When the body is given its space,
Any subsequent change becomes lighter.
And I believe,
And closer than you imagine.
And if you feel that this fullness has become too heavy to manage on its own,
Give yourself a safe space to unwind
This could be the right start.
Not because you are helpless,
But because you are finally ready to lighten the load.
If you find yourself in this situation, then unpacking may be the next step in your journey.
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